Mind's maze

For full disclosure, I am not an expert in this matter, I have been seeing a therapist for some time in the past (who hasn't?) and psychiatrist for some pharmacological help (I like to call it "happy candy"). I am a big supporter of therapy, psychoanalysis, as I know from my experience, it helped me. I will not say it will definitely be the best way to help everyone, people work in different ways. But there is one thing that I will always say is a big stack of BS: NLP.  Neuro linguistic programming to me is nothing more than just wishful thinking. How do you expect to change your life and behavior, truly, for long term, simply by telling yourself what you want and what you should do to accomplish your goal? Let's not forget that most of the people have some limitations which are a direct result of their underlying emotional trauma, their defense mechanisms. They might not even be aware of it but in certain situations, the defense mechanism kicks in and without knowing...

We learn everyday, from everyone. But it's our choice what we learn and from whom. Unfortunately it's not so simple when we are kids or even teenagers, we get heavily influenced by our parents and peers. This is why we need to be aware at some point who we are, who we are becoming, what's good, what's wrong and who do we want to be. I'm not talking about a specific career path, I'm taking about the kind of human being we want to become, what will we value. My father was (and probably still is, I don't talk to him) the biggest asshole I have ever met in my life. Or one of the biggest. Anyway, he's a racist prick. He always used nasty words to describe people of color with which I did not agree but was scared to say anything because he also had a very bad temper. So he tried to raise me as a racist too. Good for me, I have a brain of my own and occasionally use it so I figured out that it doesn't matter where are you from or what God/Gods do you believ...